I just read an article about a young man who has launched a dating app based on what or who people hate.
It's a digital cousin, I presume, of the other dating apps out there, except that this one pre-screens your potential date or mate based on deal breakers--a shared abhorrence for certain things.
The 'what-I-hate' dating app is an interesting concept, but I have to admit, declaring and sharing our hates seems like an odd way to find love.
Still, the article got me thinking about passion and vehemence and how we can apply these to what we really love (not what we hate), and what we're willing to fight for. Hey, it worked in the Sound of Music ("These are a few of my favorite things"), so why not in February 2017?
In turn, this latter line of thinking led me to a slap-my-forehead, ah! ha! moment: In middle age, I realize that my love-list is less.
When we're young we profess to love so many things. We simply adore certain flavors of snacks or cakes or a certain pop song. We declare that we'd give our lives to meet a certain author, a performer, or a movie star or two. We grow territorial and fetish-ish over a favorite book or vinyl record, and we simply couldn't live without that pair of bell-bottom jeans with the red patch stitched below the knee.
But now, the love list is shorter and simpler. In mid-life, life itself seems to be shrinking.
These days I'm very wary of crowding my days or life with unimportant things or activities. In fact, I'm about ready to whittle it all down to a list of simple must-haves, the things I love and couldn't or wouldn't let go.
Hmmm ... that must-have list, what would that be?
- Walking (definitely)
- Reading (goes without saying)
- Writing (on good days)
- Morning grapefruit (o.k., so there's a little dependency *issue* there; I admit it)
- Solitude (without it, I can't have the first 3)
- Money (without it, I can't have any of the others)
- Strong coffee (speaking of dependency)
- A journal and pen
- My local library
- My portable beach chair
O.k., this list is actually longer than I had intended. So when it comes to that acetic living thing, I clearly have some more work still to do.
In the spirit of Valentine's day, let's share the 'what-I-love' love lists here.
What do you love? What could you not live without?